Falling in love is one of the greatest human experiences. It makes everything worthwhile, and helps bring completeness to an otherwise colorless life. Being with that someone who will love you and promise to be with you for the rest of your life is all anyone could ask for. I’ve been in and out of love, and I can say that it is the best feeling in the world!
A lot of people believe in soul mates. Someone who is a perfect match to your qualities. Someone for whom you tend to develop a natural affinity, a sense of belonging for. I’ve been a long time believer in soul mates, and I’ve learnt a lot with every step of my journey so far. I’ve been battered and bruised, hurt badly, but I’m still looking. Still looking for Ms. Right!
If you are one of those looking to find your soul mate, and have been at it for a while, this is for you. Here are 5 reasons why you’d probably never end up with your soul mate.
#1 There’s more than a billion people to search from
Just a number I’m throwing out there, but you get the picture. There are a lot of people in the world, and finding your true soul mate seems like finding a needle in a haystack.
#2 The wrong choices are awfully tempting…
A lot of choices will come your way. And a lot of these would appear awful tempting, but won’t work out due to some reason or the other. You may end up getting hurt or frustrated that you’re back to square one.
#3 The right one won’t carry a sign that says, “Pick me!”
Identifying the right one isn’t a piece of cake either. Your soul mate won’t be carrying a sign saying, “Pick me! I’m it”.
#4 You’re running out of time…
You aren’t getting younger by the minute. A lot of pressure could come up from family, friends, well wishers to get settled. Or it could be one of your personal goals to get married by a certain age. Time is not a friend, it waits for no one.
#5 Your soul mate has to love you back
Well, you think you’ve found your soul mate. The perfect match, made in heaven you say. Everything looks good, but there’s a catch. Someone else got to them first. Or they don’t feel that way about you. Or they just don’t like you. Or worse, you’re related (yikes!)
Ugh, doesn’t sound too good, does it? So what do you do? I’d say, keep looking! But don’t look for a soul mate, rather look for someone you like spending time with. Or who understands how you feel without you actually saying the words. Or who would care for the small things that you do, however insignificant they are for you. You won’t be perfect, but close enough and willing to make the required adjustments along the way.
What do you do when you fall in love that doesn’t end too well? We’re humans, we all make mistakes. Sure, it will hurt. You might even say that it feels like a kick to the nuts. But don’t lose hope, give yourself time to heal. And then, try again later.
What do you do when you really find the one? Congratulations! You’re truly lucky; maybe even possess god-like powers. Hold on to them and never let go! Fight for them. Love them beyond normal.
For those who are still looking, happy searching!